I am so done. I am forever using my voice to ‘remind’ the kids to pick things up, make their beds and clean up after themselves.
We used to have a ‘card’ system that worked beautifully…but it was time consuming so we didn’t keep it up. BIG MISTAKE.
That said, I am tired of feeling like a nag. About 2 weeks ago I walked by the mess in the boys’ room and knew that by the time they got home I’d forget to tell them about how they had not made their beds and had left both clean & dirty clothes all over the floor. I thought to myself: I should just leave them a ticket!
And so I proceeded to develop the following list of infractions & penalties. Hubby & I went over it and decided we should do it.
Unfortunately, we talked about it but didn’t really start implementing it.
I was planning to share this with you next week, but as I was asked to speak with CBC today about whether Alberta Mom Jessica Stillwell was over the top when she decided to go on strike from housework for a week, I felt it much more appropriate to share with you today.
When we explained the upcoming system to our kids, one of the boys asked what he gets if he does everything properly (i.e. gets no tickets). The jury’s still out on that one. (One of the reasons we delayed..) Perhaps a good citizenship award? We’ll see…
In the meantime, have a look at the list of infractions & penalties. Only time will tell if this system will work
- Un-made bed
- Clean clothes on floor
- Dirty clothes on floor
- Papers on floor
- Messy desk
- Leaving towel on floor
- Not cleaning up after self
- Leaving the lights on
- Use of Inappropriate language
- Forgot to tie-back hair/elastics
- Unsolicited Body Contact
- Use of anything as a weapon
- Inciting Violence
- Interference with a Criminal Investigation (i.e. lying)
- Not bringing home lunchbox
- Not bringing home homework/agenda
Under School Jurisdiction (with full support of Mom & Dad)
- Forgot/Didn’t do homework
- Forgot Lunch at home
- Forgot Kippah at Home
- Disrespect/Misbehaving at school
- Restore the environment as necessary & assignment of community service for 1 day (Can be assistance for clean-up of any kind requested by Mom/Dad)
- Loss of Privileges for 1 week
- Addition of Entrance to a rehab program for repeat offenders, Program to be determined by Mom & Dad
- Make efforts to repair situation immediately (get back lunch from office, Call friend for Homework)
- Loss of privileges at 3rd offense.
Signing Officer: ___________________________
Here’s what the ticket actually looks like:
(For those of you who are wondering what a Kippah is- it’s a little skullcap worn by Jewish boys-mandatory at my kids’ school)
Don’t forget to catch my interview today at 4:10 PM TUNE INTO CBC HOMERUN – live at 88.5 FM, 104.7 FM or stream live from CBC.ca/montreal.
What ‘systems’ have you tried to implement at home? Have they worked? Please share!!!
Interested in reading Jessica’s story? Check out her blog at: Crazy Working Mom: Diary of a mother on the brink of snapping!
Wishing you an infraction-free weekend, and if that’s not in the cards…I wish you strength!